10 ways to be a good friend
Being selfless is an important part of being a good friend. Accommodate your friend’s wishes whenever you can, provided this is done in a balanced way in your friendship. Always be available when needed by your friend.
BE YOUR FRIEND’S KEEPER
If you sense that your friend is getting into some sort of trouble over which he or she has little control, such as taking drugs, being promiscuous or getting too drunk at a party, help him or her to get away from the situation. Watch out for your friend and render support in times of crisis.
GIVE THOUGHTFUL ADVICE
Give thoughtful advice when asked, but don’t judge your friends, simply advise them when they reach for your advice. However, don’t be offended by your friend listening to your advice and then deciding to ignore it. Your friend must be allowed to make his or her own decisions. Being a good friend is about being reliable, kind-hearted and thoughtful.
Connect with people whose friendship you value and see as sustainable. Be yourself and be real! It is better to just be yourself than to let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.
A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends because it is hard to rely or trust a person who doesn’t behave in a supportive, consistent or trustworthy way. Good friendship is based on trust.BE LOYAL
If your friend tells you something in confidence, keep that confidence and don’t talk about it to anyone else. Don’t discuss your friends behind their back and don’t spread rumours about the confidences they have imparted to you. Don’t gossip with your friend or say bad things about them. Don’t back-stab!
Good friends respect one another and show this by being openly and mutually supportive. If your friend has certain values and beliefs that don’t align with your own, respect their choices and be open to listening about them. Don’t mock or belittle what other people believe in like religion, faith or culture.
Listen! You don’t have to agree, just listen to what is being said. During conversation, make sure to stop talking at intervals and let your friend or someone else talk. Everybody likes to be listened to, don’t forget! Listening opens spaces between the two of you and reassures your friend that you are not judging them.
Step back and give your friend some space! Understand if your friend wants to be alone or to hang out with other people. Friendship doesn’t mean that two of you have to be paired all the time. Staying apart for awhile can refreshen your friendship and make you appreciate each other better.
LIVE BY THE GOLDEN RULE
Always treat your friends as you would like to be treated by them. This is living by the golden rule!